Tuesday, January 15, 2013




Proverbs 17:17 A friend loveth at all times and a brother is born for adversity.

You’ve been dating him for a while now, and things are going pretty good.  Slowly, you notice he’s not doing some of the things he used to do.  He’s not being as attentive as he once was.  He’s making excuses as to why he can’t come over, and now he wants you to call before you come over to his place

Tell me ladies, what’s going on?  Ok, I think we all know what’s going on.  Someone else is in the picture.  Of course, he’s not man enough to tell us this, and we’re gonna have to have to play Columbo to find out.  And when we find out who is messing with our man, we’re gonna….

Ladies, why is it when we find out that our man is seeing another woman, we turn on the woman?  Is it really the woman’s fault?  Is it right that we take out our frustrations on the woman?  When it’s really the man who has committed the crime (so to speak)?  Doesn’t he recognize that he is (or was) in a relationship?  Didn’t he know that when he said he loved you; he was supposed to be in a monogamous relationship?  So why are you upset with your sister?  Yes, she is with your man, (but he’s not really ours is he?) but she wasn’t the one who made the commitment to you, was she?

Most times the women they are sneaking around with don’t know they are seeing someone’s man until they are caught up in the relationship, then it’s the best woman who will win.  Or so we think it’s the best woman.  Are we really getting a prize when he has been cheating on both of us?  I don’t think so.


So you start calling and hanging up on your sister.  You start spreading rumors about her, but yet you are still talking to the man who cheated on you.  You call the other woman names, yet you tell the man that cheated on you how much you love him; you forgive him, and you know it wasn’t his fault??!!  Ladies, what is wrong with this picture?

Ok, you have forgiven the man, but you are still mad with the sister?  She’s not the one who made endless promises; she’s not the one sleeping with you and spending your money (and he probably spent some on her); she’s not the dropping you off at work (with your car) and picking up someone else.  However, you are mad at your sister, and still calling him “your man.”

When will we learn to stop working against each other and come together?  When will we stop blaming our sisters for what we are allowing to happen to us?  When will we stop falsely accusing the wrong person for the bad things that happen in our relationships?  If he committed the sin, he is guilty.  Your sister didn’t cause this problem; stop taking your anger out on her.  We have got to learn to confront the enemy head-on and call him out.


Quit blaming yourself, and your sister.  Stop being a victim, take responsibility for your actions only, and remove yourself from a bad situation.  You deserve the best; you are special to God, and He wants you to have His best, not handouts from the enemy.

Make a change; embrace the sister whom you’ve hated for no reason.  God wants us to come together, to support each other, to pray for each other, to just be there if only to listen.  God has given each of us talents; she may have a talent that can help you, and you may have a talent which can help her.  How will you know if you don’t stop the bickering, the fighting, the backstabbing, and come together to be a blessing to each other?

Look at the friendship between Mary and Elisabeth.

Scripture reading: Luke 1: 39-42

And Mary arose in those days, and went into the hill country with haste, into a city of Juda;   And entered into the house of Zacharias, and saluted Elisabeth.  And it came to pass, that, when Elisabeth heard the salutation of Mary, the babe leaped in her womb; and Elisabeth was filled with the Holy Ghost:  And she spake out with a loud voice, and said, Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb.

When Elisabeth heard the salutation of Mary, the baby leaped in her womb.  Just from hearing her voice.  Then it says Elisabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit.  Now wouldn’t it be wonderful to be a blessing in your sister’s life this way.  That just the sound of your voice would bring joy, blessings and not curses.  Your voice should fill your sister with love, not anger.  Oh what a time you could have.

Come together and praise the Lord for opening your eyes and exposing the tricks of the enemy, and for delivering both of from a bad relationship.  Together with the Lord you could turn everything around and make the enemy mad and cause him to flee.  Start a support/prayer group, a book reading group or even have a girl’s night just to get out and be with friends.  What the enemy meant for bad, God will turn around and make it for your good (if you let Him).

Stand up and let the enemy know you are not going to take his foolishness anymore.  You see the enemy is depending upon you being weak, and accepting what is happening in your life.  He is depending upon you closing your eyes to the situation, and allowing him to go back and forth between the two of you until neither one of you have anything left to give.

John 10:10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.

Show him up for what he is….a thief and a liar.  Reach out to your sister and build a strong bond.  Reach out and come together against what the enemy is trying to do to you.  Don’t allow the enemy to destroy the relationship with your sister.  Remember she is not the one who hurt you; he is.  If you are married, she is not the one that stood before the Lord and made a vow for better or worse, in sickness, and health, to death due you part, he did.  If you can forgive him, then you must forgive her as well.    

Lean upon each other, keep each other encouraged.  We all need someone to encourage us when things go wrong.  That’s what friends are for.  Don’t allow him, or anyone to control you anymore.

Stand up as one in the name of Jesus, and stop the enemy from hindering your bond with your sister.

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